Daily life is everything
You aren’t the only one with problems
Whatever you do, do it well!
The price for dependence is dependency.
The reward for self-reliance is self-determination.
It’s a long horizon
A good friend is like a good pond. You can see yourself reflected back. (folk)
We can think of ourselves as a battery charged by the activities of the day. We wake up in the morning either tired or energized, on the “right side of the bed” or on “the wrong side of the bed.” And the way we wake up is not in our control … it just is. But the day is long and filled with activity. Did you know that each activity you will participate in during the day will “leave an imprint” on your mood? That’s how I like to think about it. Whether we are aware of it or not, even activity we participate in leaves an imprint on our moods. This also includes “the lack of activity,” i.e. just staying at home. It too will affect your mood. When all is said and done, we can think of mood as being external… and not magical, as something that comes out of nothing. It is the direct result of the day’s activities.
Now, with that being said, there is an aspect of mood that is internal, in other words not created by the day’s activities. This internal state of mind may have been created 10 months ago by a traumatic event; resulting in a bleak outlook or depression. The same is true for a good mood or “a good place.” For example, you could be in very positive state of mind for months at a time, caused by a particularly positive event. For example, when I graduated college, I was inflated and feeling good the whole summer. That was great! But even long term moods, as daily moods, gradually wear off.
Long term moods we can think of as internal simply because the event that produced them has now disappeared. Daily moods we can say are external because the event that caused them is still here. The important thing to remember is that mood is the result of activity. We can think ourselves as a battery charged through activity. If we want to be happy we have to participate in good activities. Activities that we like, enjoy, are fun, that “create energy,” and charge us the right way.
A great quote always cheers me up
You could have it so much better if you try. -Franz Ferdinand, band
Everyone has a heavy weight to carry. -Pastor Richard Wing
Friendship is only possible between good men. -Cicero
The good thing about pain is it can never kill you.
What makes for a good life? Well, I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that a well rounded life is better than a life “out of balance.” For example, all work and no play is bad. Likewise all play and no work is not the ideal life. So, as I see it, when it comes to living well, it is better to put each of your eggs in different baskets rather than all of your eggs in one basket. Some of each thing is better than all of just one thing. Here is a list I came up of things that I value and I believe should go into making a good life.
You need some fun and excitement in your life.
You need some love in your life.
You need some friendship in your life.
You need some stability and routine in your life.
You need some rest in your life.
You need some work in your life.
You need some hobbies and entertainment in your life.
You need some challenge and growth in your life.
Did I forget anything? I am sure this is not a comprehensive list of the features of a good, well rounded life. But it is a start. I encourage you to come up with some things that are important to you that you want to incorporate in your life. Share them in the comments.
Don’t turn into a cynic.
Daily life is happiness to me.
You can’t enjoy pleasure because it’s always accompanied by pressure.
Don’t allow yourself to be idle.
Stand for something.
Embrace your nature. (Gretchen Rubin)
No guts no glory (folk)
Try really hard.
If you can take the blame people will give you the responsibility. (Gretchen Rubin)
“Happiness is an imagination. Boredom is a reality.” (G Shetuni.) Let us examine this saying a little bit. For example, right now, here where I live, in Columbus, OH: here is the current reality, it is an ugly, cloudy, dreary, cold winter’s day. So that’s what can be literally seen if you look out the window. There is no show out there. It’s a rather dull reality! Reality is dull … isn’t it? But if you are happy you “imagine” a more pleasing reality … one that does not literally exist. Because, as we said, there is no show outside your window. But there may be a show in your eyes; the show that you are imagining when you look at the same dull scene. And this imagination is being produced by happiness. Happiness is when the mind is being creative and is able to see things that aren’t there.
For example, here are two scenarios of the same reality.
The depressed reality: Oh, it’s dinner time. The table is black. The food tastes bad. How can you be happy doing this?
The happy reality: Oh, it’s dinner time, I remember that one time having dinner with so and so … oh my God, that was so funny! (and your eyes see something that the depressed/unhappy person cannot catch because it does not literally exist. Happiness is an imagination.)